Thank-you so much for your kind words and support regarding my news last week! With all that has been occurring of late; my new job, my new car, and just the daily calamity that is life – I’ve allowed myself to become a little distracted, and let’s face it, a little indulgent. I found myself in a situation where I was bidding farewell to much loved workmates of 3 years (and having a few too many goodbye drinks and shots) as well as celebrating my new job and new car – so alcohol and the inevitable straying into ‘Naughty Land’ happened. I was tracking my calories during this time, but wasn’t really watching my macronutrient breakdown, slipping a few too many carbs and a bit too much fat into my day. It wasn’t a catastrophe, but it helped halt some of my progress. I haven’t put any weight on, but haven’t lost any either. Do I regret slightly slipping off the wagon? A little; but hey I’m human… it was a crazy time, and I can’t change what has happened, just what WILL happen.
Making mistakes is inevitable. It’s not unusual that we slip up, but it only becomes problematic if we continue the behaviours & never learn from them. A few months ago my ‘transgression’ would not have even been a blip on the radar – the fact that it is now, shows me how much I have changed. I have proven to myself over the last few months, that I can embrace change; that I can change my psychology & lifestyle, that I can eat healthily and work out – and that I can stray for a moment, and it doesn’t need to end in disaster. Things change, often spontaneously. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesn’t stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds – but at the end of the day, we all need to take responsibility for our own eating habits, exercise and results.
I take full responsibility for all of my actions and inactions, for all of my results or lack of result. I am an active participant in building the life I want – I know better, so I owe it to myself to be consistent and do my best. But perfection is hard; making the attainable, seem unattainable – especially when other things sometimes interfere… And then there’s the guilt…which can actually work against our resolve. Often, the guiltier we feel about a transgression, the more we fixate on it and beat ourselves up – which inevitably leads to more transgressions, and eventually to giving up. Next thing you know, you’re back to eating like that on a daily basis and the old habits take over. I have been victim to this cycle many times in my life, but now refuse to get caught up in it.
And so, I’ve decided to forgive myself, and reward myself by going back to my healthy ways. There really isn’t anything else I can do about my slip up – what’s done is done, and the only thing I can do is to go forward. Feeling guilty will not burn off those extra calories, or undo the damage. It’s what we do next that determines whether we recover, or blow our resolve and give up. And that’s NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! I am using any guilt & regret I feel in a positive way; using it to help me focus even more on the healthy foods I want to eat, and to cement my resolve to stay the course. There is no giving up, no going back to bad habits…Boom! Done. Over. Life isn’t really about being ‘perfect’. It’s about day-to-day consistency. And even when we take into account those times when we falter and get off track, it’s the consistency of sticking to something over the long haul that gives us the results we want. Don’t worry about being perfect. Nobody is.
The journey continues my friends!
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